An acquaintance recently asked me
‘Are you always this happy and positive. And as confident and motivated as you portray?’
After a moment of reflection, I replied
‘Yes, but I’m always grateful and don’t take anything for granted.’
I’ve have had my difficult times so appreciate my health and happiness even more now.
We all go through amazing glorious times, then hum drum just ticking along times and occasionally we are floored and go through the hardest of times.
At the times we feel our lowest and that life may never be the same again if we have developed rituals that we embed in to our daily life they can help calm and destress us and also help us to remember to be grateful when times are good.
For me, this revelation came late. I ate a healthy diet, never drank excessive amounts of alcohol, exercised regularly but coped by shutting off my emotions, regarded the need for ‘rituals’ as a sign of weakness, a waste of time and far too self-indulgent. It wasn’t until my body refused to play along with my mind that I considered I may have to approach life in another way.
Now I wish I’d known sooner and hope my experience and tunnel vision which contributed to me losing my health for a few years will be enough to convince those I love and a wider audience that we pay the price sooner or later, if we refuse to be gentle on our bodies.
Become aware of your body it will whisper to you, if you listen carefully.
These are the changes I made that helped me
re find my health, balance, and calm.
- You need to keep your cup filled for you and your life.
Hold back some of your energy you can’t keep going relentlessly until you hit ‘burn out’
Let others take only your overflow only to serve them ….
- It’s not weak to rest actually it takes confidence and strength to say;
‘I’m not feeling strong today. I need a day to rest and recover my mind and my body.’
- Be fearlessly authentic.
‘This is me. The real me. Not the me I think you want me to be or the me I would like to be in a Disney film or a superhero movie.’
We are not for everyone and they are not for us, that’s ok but trying to be something or someone you are not is exhausting and eventually you will burn out. Be brave enough to be you!
- Our rituals, the little things we turn to.
To help us find balance and harmony when we are feeling great and grateful and want to ‘feel the moment’ ‘celebrate the moment’ and in the difficult times when all feels dark, we are overwhelmed and need to stop, whilst we find our inner strength.
We can have lots of rituals but one simple one…. the one I discovered, the one that re connected me to my clarity, my mindfulness, my spiritual connection, and I believe gave me back some of my physical health?
BREATHING… taking just a few minutes every day to breathe and reconnect our mind to our bodies can reenergise and destress you.
There are many different breathing techniques and exercises but efficient, calming diaphragmatic breathing is a great place to start… follow or contact me if this resonates with you as I will be posting breathing and Nidra videos and offering courses that incorporate both.
In the meantime, start today, take a moment …. just 5 minutes for you, even it’s simply inhaling for 4 seconds through your nose feeling the oxygen hit and then exhaling through your nose for 6 seconds releasing toxins.
Feel how good it feels to breathe, really breathe.